This year on International Woman’s day I have joined hands with amazing ladies to celebrate womanhood. Chip in our Women’s day blog party and see our take on womanhood. Few would amaze you, some would make you go laugh rolling on the floor and there would lots of emotions. Read on my letter to self.
Here is my take as I pen a letter to my teen self.
Dear Past self,
This is your future-self writing to you. You must be wondering if it is another poor joke. Life is already a mess and there comes a letter like this. Relax, take a deep breath. I time-traveled to pass on this letter to you. I am more than a decade older to you now. Are you thinking what is the content here? Thinking maybe you can figure out what to do after this 12th board exam. Or I would drop a hint of your broad exam score. Sorry to disappoint you, I am here to let you know I love you so much. I am what I am for you.
Oh dear, are you upset now for not knowing your future? Let me give you a bear hug. Okay, I am dropping few subtle hints now. You are going to score reasonable and land up in a good place for graduation. Happy now 😊
Now let’s talk about the situation in your hand. Your friends moved out-of-town. You can hardly talk to them over the phone but you exchange letters. Both of your best friends adore you. With passing time, they would get real busy in their lives and gradually you would stop receiving a letter. Hey, now don’t frown, you are going get emails. Yes! Yay!! Agreed that you don’t have a desktop or internet but soon an internet café is going to near your place. That sounds fun right!
Are you thinking if I am going to talk about that new confusion going around? I know you are nodding. You are not understanding why you are feeling awkward with your oh so loving cousin. Your mind is in chaos. You are unable to concentrate on your studies and your report card shows it. You are scared why in the middle of the night you are waking up with clothes disarray and stickiness at places. You are confused about why of all relatives and friends, his stare, hug, touch, and random talk is making you uncomfortable. You even stopped taking his help in studies. You have stopped doing Surya namaskar as he has started coming to the terrace. Talk to your Maa now. Go tell her. She would clear your doubts. She would make the bad wolf ran away. But first, get up and talk. Maybe you can save your other cousins or friends from this confusing thing.
Also, dare you to think, this was your fault. And you are so strong, girl. You are such an innocent soul. Don’t take any bullshit and muddling going to happen. Fight your nearing battle. Roar, roar loud and make those gossip mongers shut. You got a tigress as mom, lucky girl.
You have a habit of criticizing yourself, stop it. Don’t be so hard. You have abilities. You are kind, determined, passionate and creative. This phase of life would end soon. Your today’s anger would meltdown and your smile would shine. You can do it. And I am so proud of you.
Your loving,
Future self.
On International Women’s Day, our inbox and social media would be flooded with quotes praising womanhood just to ignore it the next day. When a lady is dishonored or abused in a million ways, debates are held on securing public places and whatnot. But, are we safe at our own home? Awareness is needed. Let’s educate our children on sexual abuse and give them support to stand.
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This must have taken a lot of courage, you are strong and what an inspiration. I tried writing one such letter too and realized that these are the things that made us what we are today 🙂
Our past did shape us all, Kavita.
This is very inspiring to read. It’s not easy to take a stand but you are courageous girl. More power to you
An attempt to say all survivors you were not at fault here.
What a lovely post. If I ever had to write a letter to my past self, I would probably have the same things to say.
Hugs to that Charu.
Reading this letter makes me feel it’s more important, speaking to kids about good and bad and give them confidence about talking and discussing about everything with us.
Utmost important Ujjwal. Glad you echo my intentions.
I love the part where you asked yourself t roar, and road loud! I as a kid wasn’t brave enough, neither was I equipped to handle such a situation. I made sure I equip my daughters to be able to protect themselves, and talk to me freely without hesitation if anything or anyone is ever bothering them. I love this article & appreciate your bravery for writing it!
The reason I shared this letter is to aware the parents of the need to educate children about evils and come to talk openly. Glad to hear your kind words,
shalu.
I’m so proud of you for telling your younger self that it wasn’t her fault. Wish someone said that to us that time and gave is the courage to speak out. Hope you did.
This is a lovely letter, so full of love and respect for yourself. 😊
The roar was late but it did break the glass walls 🙂
This is a lovely letter to past self. I would scold myself for being always hesitant in expressing myself at that time.
Most of us were hesitant back then.
Very sweet letter my dear, I particularly loved the last part of the letter of how to motivate yourself
Thanks Roma.
Hey, loved the way you addressed the letter to your past self. Kudos and simply enjoyed going through this post today.
Thanks dear.
Even I want to tell my past that mistakes I have done I wish I don’t want to repeat and thanks for giving me lessons for life whether good or bad!!
Beautiful thoughts Ruchi.
So proud of you, girl. It takes courage to share such incidents openly. Kudos to your efforts. You have beautifully penned it. Our kids need to be aware of such evils that lurks in the most safest place on earth.
One tiny step to make people aware of the dangers.
This write up has really stolen my heart so well expressed I can understand this so well as currently even I have fought with my past & I have become strong women 😊
The world needs strong women. Thanks for visiting.
Oh! You moved me girl by your words. Sharing about the past is not so easy ever. I must say, You are a very brave, bold and clean hearted person. I am very proud of you because now you are a very confident, caring and loving mother too.
You are the kindest and sweetest soul to say so. Thank you.
This is a wonderful letter. I will tell my past self, don’t think so much just enjoy the flow.
Cheers to that.
You are a courageous,confident and strong woman and salute to you for that.So beautifully you have penned this letter.Bravo!
Thanks Sneha. This probably is the story of most women in the country.
It was such a heart felt letter dear and you had expressed your emotions so beautifully with great courage. Really admire the end msg, it is need of an hour and must needed for our so called Morden society.
Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts Surbhi.
Hey this is a heart touching letter. We all would like to give ourselves some advice but who listens while we are in the teens. We have kids to try giving advice too soon. Hehehe! About the situation at hand, my past has gone but my kids are not going to go through anything like that. Trying my best !
Scars of the past can’t dim our children’s future.
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This is first read on your blog. What an amazing post. We have to speak up. Things like this have to said out loud when needed. Otherwise unknowingly we give encouragement to such people and their so polluted mindset.
True. When we are quiet those people get encouraged. Awareness and a courage to speak up saying No is important.
You are so courageous and strong. I can only hope that your letter encourages many young girls out there going through the same thing to come out and speak to an adult about it.
Thanks Mahak. My purpose of writing it was to encourage women to come forward and raise a voice. We always have a tribe of strong willed women who would support us, like this. Thank you for making a platform for us through this blog party.
A straight to the letter. Bold step to come out of your own puddle. Very well written.
Thank you Bhakti.
It saddens me to no end that us women have to go through things like this. It is so unfair. But look where you are today.. you should be proud of yourself for pulling yourself up and making something wonderful with life. God bless you.
Thanks for joining in on our #WomensDayBlogParty
Tara, thanks for conducting this blog party. True, we women go to a lot which is left unsaid and unnoticed. May the next generation is protected from this abuse
Thanks for conducting this blog party. I read beautiful blogs through this chain. It was a great platform to share thoughts
I am so proud of you momma.
Thank you Shaonli
You are hell of a strong woman. Stay strong
Thanks Jasmeet. I got a stronger mother too. So grateful to her
Every girl who has faced similar situation, should read this. Till the time travel becomes a reality, there need to be more women and more men around us to understand and support girls.
We can only pray no more souls to get hurt. Support from family and friends is savior.
I am so happy that I am part of this amazing blog train where women like you are raising awareness for important issues like abuse. Every woman has faced abuse in some form , I am one of them but never had the courage to write about it. This letter could be true for many . Well done !!
Hey Aesha, thanks for indulging me in the blog train. A platform like this is a great way to spread awareness. I am so glad to join this
This is so bold and beautiful. I wish I could tell this to my younger self and more than that I wish I would have understand the fact that wolves were bad and not me. My life would have been much better. It reminds me of so many things….
Sadly many children go through this and wolves scared them for long. We can only create a safe place for our kids and keep them aware of bad wolf. Awareness is needed!
This was so hard for me to read… I don’t think I could ever tell my past self to be courageous against such pple… Guess we all had to go through all this shit to become the strong women we are today. Hope our kids grow up realizing the same as well. To never take anything thrown at them with their mouth shut.
Exactly we got to educate our kids about their safety and trust them. Once they are aware of good and bad touch and they can ask our help, we can keep the bad people far away. Hopefully behind bars.
thats so brave of you to come out of that shell and write about it. we must tell our children to report any such incidence no matter how small or big it is.
I agree Shivani. Issues like this needs to be reported and stopped. But families stop the victim saying, let’s solve the problem at home and the sufferer changes with time. Trust becomes a challenge to them.
wooow , the letter is so much motivating . I feel it like you are writing to me and It give a push to my future thought.
Thank you